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Springing into September with a blog ☄️

Well yeah,5 days late!

September, my favourite month

I am a double-September mum

Make that triple as l birth this Blog

Name suggestions anyone?
Well l am just excited 😊 to be here

Just like a mum holding her baby for the first time 🌝
How to hold it right,

Like a first time mum

Excited Nervous and anxious

Am l doing this right?

Here’s to terilific reading and writing!
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Flashback Facebook

Facebook; the giant social media platform that has connected millions of people across the world.

Early days, people were excited about Facebook. Friends from prep school,high school&Varsity and all over. What a way to connect with friends and family across the world..

Fast forward Leventeen years, many people now despise Facebook? What went wrong? Was it the security breaches? Somehow, Facebook is despised by many, why?

Folk on twitter actually hate facebook to the extent that when Twitter debates rage on,the usual insult

“Take your trash back to Facebook” is thrown around.

Well, l still have my facebook profile active and randomly visit for updates. I particularly like the “Banting Group”. The weight-loss journeys are amazing. But all is possible because of the mind. Positive mindset can surely achieve anything in this world. I will one day blog about the Banting group, today am all about Flashback Facebook.

Trying to reconstruct a positive mindset is what l am at least trying to do for now. Flashback facebook has been very helpful in that regards. My posts from 7/8 years ago are so inspirational and l even ask myself where all that positivity went 🤦🏿‍♀️🤦🏿‍♀️

Here are few posts l have from 7/8 years

I am guilty of both…

Not doing after thinking 🤔 💭

And Doing without 💭 Thinking 🤔 and it cost me a treasured friendship 😔😔😔

But you know what 👇🏿👇🏿👇🏿👇🏿

And of course, with God nothing is impossible!

May these quotes cheer and brighten you too…

PST!

PST-Back to basics

PST….yes me!

PST… yes you!

PST..all of us!

I bumped into Amanda Cade’s blog over the weekend,Heaven sent! Just what l needed towards a positive mindset!

“Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going” – Jim Ryun.

Lets get started!

About time to go back to basics.

How about going back to basics.

These are my basics: PST

P-Please

S-Sorry

T-Thanks

Knowing when to use PST will help attain a positive mindset! Sufficient and appropriate use of PST could be what the doctor ordered!

Please.

Not many people, nowadays have please in their vocabulary! Guilty as charged! Not many times have l used please in an appropriate context. Always used as a last resort, please will have you at the mercy of others 😩😩

Sorry

Now, sorry is not a word to be used too frequent, lest it lose its true meaning! To err is human, how about you apologise for your errors? Then again, when you err every now and again would that still be error or intentional 🧐

Sufficient sorry from within can mend a relationship or broken friendship. Sorry with a full stop sounds genuine to me.

Sometimes sorry is taken for granted because of the tone and frequency it is used! So many sorries might be deal breakers! Also, Sorry with a BUT ceases to be an apology! “I am sorry, but it’s…” 🤦🏿‍♀️

Thanks

Now Thanks is my favourite! I throw it around as often as l can! When someone gives me a thanks, I feel they appreciate what l would have done to them!

Thanks in the present tense and being thankful for the tiniest thing one possesses is also a measure towards attaining happiness. If you’re not thankful for what you have, when then will you be satisfied! Remember, some of the things you have now, are things you once prayed to have but now that you have them, you don’t want to be thankful? Come on, don’t be grumpy!

Back to basics! PST…

Please

Sorry

Thanks 🙏🏿

Forever Friend

When we walk with The Lord

In the light of his word

What a glory he sheds on our way!

Powerful! I like the chorus…

Trust and obey

For there’s no other way!

To be happy in Jesus,

But to trust and obey…

Seldom are our paths consistently straight. But how can one be happy?

Without his guidance we continue to meander in life. We go astray only to turn back and find him still there for us!

The forever-available friend. That time when you feel lonely and friendless, Be reminded he is there always!

Can we find a friend so faithful
  Who will all our sorrows share?
Jesus knows our every weakness,
  Take it to the Lord in prayer.*

*Extracted from hymnal:What A friend we have!

Love and other things

I love, love stories. Don’t we all? Maybe l love them more than many people love love stories 💕

The love that has seen it all

Been through it all.

They say true love travels down a gravel and bumpy road. Its never too easy,neither does it have a formula.

And l say, when you love it just flows. The bumps on the gravel road go unnoticed 💖

December weddings and the exhibition of love…

And the honeymoon that comes after…

Love doesn’t age

It doesn’t hurt

Love is a wonderful thing!

If you feel it, these images will warm your heart

about “Love off the Internet”

Continues…..

Power,mental power!

What’s the best source of power one can tap from? The right mental attitude can determine the altitude you can reach! Sometimes we set our own limitations mentally! We can be our own hurdles! Where am l going with this? I don’t know, am also trying to figure it out myself!

Trying to stay sane amidst the many challenges life throws at you can be really tough. However, believing you can; might actually overcome these challenges! The more you say you can’t, the greater the chances that you will fail!

If music is the food of love,how best can one feed their mind? Accessing knowledge! We learn everyday and one can never be too old to learn. The mind grows better when fed with the right knowledge.

Of happy thoughts and optimism, against all odds, a positive mindset can overcome the challenges around you. It’s all in the mind.

There’s no need to lie to yourself though. Realism and optimism and telling oneself success is a possibility when the precise amount of work is done.

These are my thoughts and a few quotes off the internet. My mind has been a mess lately and l am trying to regain Mental strength

Of New Years’ Resolutions

The end of another 365 days Is fast approaching…

Did you have any resolutions?

How many did you achieve?

What were your plans for 2018?

Of planning and not planning,Zimbabwe is a place that does that unprovoked!

Plan- unplan sometimes not planning at all will get you farther than you anticipated! A friend of mine believes not planning at all will save you from the disappointment.

No plans for the weekend

No plans for the month

No plans for the year… because Life is what happens to us while we are making plans!

But by failing to plan,is one preparing to fail?

Take a day at a time,

Get to know where you are going so that when you get there,you know you have arrived!

Do your best and stop overthinking as it only leads to sadness. So if 2018 didn’t go the way you had planned, don’t give up, all your hard work will pay off one day!

Love off the internet 

..the sunset was perfect for the romantic setting.  They stared deep into each other’s eyes! 

The moment was so cute,it seemed to have lasted a lifetime. The precise moment his lips touched hers, it felt like she was floating in the clouds. 

Red bull gives you wings? In this case, the overflow of love 💕…

Staring into the sky

Counting stars

A first date like no other!

At the back of her mind she kept asking herself “why didn’t this love come sooner?” 

But of course “Connecting beard” seems to be the basic requirement for the “ideal guy to date” nowadays!

No!  Mr Yellowbone-no-beard-nor-Fitness-Twitter wasn’t going to come sooner into her life.

What started off as a direct message enquiring on what the “Sunday-Twitter-Twar”  subject was on, turned into Direct messages closer to home. Greetings and Good night messages every other day.

For a year, Mr Yellowbone made it a point to send her a Good morning greeting at sunrise. It went on and on till the “Can we meet at the kopje at sunset” direct message came in!She had rehearsed the date in her head

… fast forward to the present
What a good time they had! A first date, no fancy restaurant nor fight on whats the better cutlery to use for rice. Neither did he tease her for the black pumps she had on

Mr Yellow bone was the right guy for her. He didn’t subscribe to the Zwitter Standards Association. 

She was in love! 

She just couldn’t believe she would find love off the internet. 

But the direct messages were much more frequent than the “physical dates”. They met once in Three months. More like the quarterely-Tax-payments! 

He was a workaholic, the only social time at his disposal was a game of tennis with potential clients. 

She loved it that way, love off the internet with a guy who barely made it to the Zwitter Bae list. But was this love meant to be? 

Well yeah, after three years of quarterly-physical-dates, Mr Yellowbone had proposed at the very same kopje they met!

Not matching outfits

No photoshoots

No “RTs”

No Dm screnshots of “It all started in the Dm”

No “Issa Marriage” tweets

Mr and Mrs Yellowbone still follow each other on the Twitterverse but very few Twimbos know they’re a couple.

After all “what happens in the DM stays in the DM”-A Twelder proverb 

Love off the internet 

“If music be the food of love,

Play on, give me excess of it;

That surfteing, the apetite may sicken, and so die”
The famous Shakespeare phrase replayed at the back of her mind as she drove from her workplace. Love is one word, when uttered, makes one mushy and warm inside. And when one is in love, the glow is evident. The smile, the speech, the touch… everything.

Celine Dion and Aaliyah love songs on her playlist as she drove to her “First Date”. Of course, music is the food of love. She played on and on. What better way to feed the soul? What better time to finally meet the one she loved, for they had met on the internet. She had waited for more than a year for their first date. 

Love knows no bounds, it breaks and tears down walls. Love is patient, a year felt like yesterday,

Well, ecstatic she was and couldn’t hide the feeling as she drove westwards. She sang along to her playlist, put on a happy face that got other motorists staring as they drove past. Towards the end of the city,was a kopje where they were to meet and watch the sunset together.

Love, yes, it renergises and takes one to another realm. She got there five minutes early and found standing near the jacaranda tree a tall,light skinned and well sculptured male of the human species. Not a member of Beard gang nor Fitness Twitter, he was just fine..

Eyes did the talking, not a word uttered by the mouth. All the rehersals of “What-do-l-do-when l-finally-meet-him?” disappeared from her thoughts as she stood in awe. 
“You can say you love me

That I’m your perfect crush 

How it hurts,to need someone that much

You can swear you mean it

But that ain’t good enough 

Cause when a man loves a woman, its is all

In his TOUCH…”

The Celine Dion song played as he put his arm around her in an embrace, that touch said it all.

To be continued…..

Joys of motherhood

“No, no, don’t push yet!” Screamed the nurse. Confused and in agony, l just did not have the energy to verbally respond, neither was l to go against nature. I mean, hey, who would stop a baby trying to escape its mother’s womb. Having carried the baby for 38 weeks,there was no way l was going to stop pushing.

The nurse aide looked confused as neither the father of the child nor the Gynaecologist were around to witness the birth of the baby. She suddenly dashed out of the labour suite to make a quick call. Meanwhile l was ready to deliver and couldn’t hold back the contractions but to my amusement, the contractions suddenly stopped. I was slightly relieved as this would somehow give ample time for the Gynaecologist to find his way to my suite.

I took a very deep breath of relief and thought to myself,let me use this time to reminisce on the journey of my pregnancy and distract myself from the excruciating labour pains. Each pregnancy has its own story and even if you’ve had more than one child, each has it’s own unique story. This was my second pregnancy and l thought l garnered enough strength to have a less dramatic delivery.

The labour duration seemed to be way shorter than the first. Howover, l threw up so much during labour and l was scared of running out of energy to push the baby when the time was right. As a second-time mum, l had done so much research and tips to make Labour bearable. I had juices by my bedside, my breathing was more controlled and l screamed less.

Just before 2300hrs, my husband arrived into the suite, few minutes apart, the Gynaecologist also dashed into the ward. Somehow,I was reenergised and didn’t even look like someone who had endured 4hours of labour pains. was ready to deliver.

“Open wider”is one phrase, I have heard too often.

First deep breath:the baby’s head popped out
second deep breath: the shoulders and somehow this baby was in a hurry to leave the womb. My son was born just before midnight. (However, the birth record says he was born on the 9th of September).

Still energised, I jokingly instructed the Gynaecologist to sew up any tear.

“Congratulations mom, you did agood job. At 3,7kg, we are pleased to tell you that there are no tears,therefore no need for stitches”.

My Face beamed with so much joy, no complications, no tear&stitches..

Joys of Motherhood ❤️

User guide or is it Manual?

Now and again l seem to come across user guides/manuals on basically everything.How to make perfect lasagne, how to restore lost data from your cloud, how to make your blog eyecatching, how to…endless lists. YouTube is my go-to-place for most of these “How to” things especially technology-related tasks. Trust me,l look for the “How-to-connect-your-DSTV Explora-to-the-internet” videos too. Everything is just there on the click of a link.

Social media is quite helpful with some of these “how-to” questions. On twitter there’s a hashtag #Twoggle which is used whenever anyone is seeking solutions to a particular situation. However, lately l have come across a series of annoying “threads”. Basically a series of linked tweets explaining these “how-to” scenarios. “How to keep a man”. Seriously, so we now have to follow a certain User guide/manual on how to keep a man?

More annoying is the fact that we have to “keep” a man/woman. What l am failing to understand is the fact that everything seems to come with a user guide/manual. Are we people with feelings or we have slowly turned into gadgets such that we have to follow certain procedures in order to prolong the duration we stay a couple? 

In as much as my fellow Zimbo ladies call our Aunties “backward”, they too are slowly becoming who they despise. Or is it that people are in relationships or situationships for as long as they can keep each other? Lol, KEEP…am still stuck at this word:”keep”

Does love still exist? Because as far as l believe, love flows naturally. It doesn’t have rules or procedures, it just flows…

A lover doesn’t follow a set of rules or procedures, they just LOVE ❤️ 

Unless nowadays people just want to keep each other? Then again even if you follow these “How to keep a man” rules and procedures s/he will still leave you if they want to leave! Your manuala/user guide is useles as s/he will leave if he feels s/he wants to leave. Rather be in love!
Love… Are you in love or you are in keeping?